New Lessons

This past week was full of lessons learned.

• If you're not getting the answers to basic questions-- that is, you know more about your neighbors than the guy you're dating (even after 3 weeks) you should reconsider...no matter how much you think you're ready to fall
• You should never skip your workouts for a guy. Period.
• Men and women can be friends, and I need my guy friends as much as my girl friends-- the guy that gets with me needs to be confident enough to deal with that.
• Extreme extroverts should probably never date loners-- no matter how magnetic the attraction of opposites are
• You should never give a guy your blog address because you can't tell the stories you really want to tell
• Balance is important to me. As much as I obviously love myself and love to talk about all things ME...eventually I really do want to talk about something else
• Also, said guy might read your blog and devise a (half assed) plan to romance you based on what you bitch about most.
• I'm amazed at the number of guys that are my age who change their tune the minute they find out I'm a mom.... even though I'm clearly quite stable as a single parent and not looking for my baby's next daddy.
• I'm also relishing single parenting more than ever. I really don't think I want a partner for that job. It is certainly easier than it was when I was married. The thought of sharing turns my stomach.
• Having a stranger hit on you and ask for your number at the grocery is quite a charge
• Later finding said stranger is married (by his own admission) makes it a freakin' good story
• my new keyboard is crappy and I can't seem to type with the same speed and accuracy and it is pissing me off
• Spring undeniably makes a significantly positive difference in my mood
• I'm totally drawn to the thinking part of sports, the mechanics, the science, etc. The effort is what makes me ache. But the thinking is what gets me through long workouts.
• My boys are truly delightful little individuals
• If you piss them off, they'll hit you, especially if you hit them first
• While I don't advocate violence, given our nerdy tendencies, I don't mind if the other kids think twice before picking on them the next time. Please don't tell the school administrators
• My Dad was actually right (see above)

I'm a compulsive list maker. I have many lists that I've made, "Ways to fill the 130 weekends without children over the next 10 years", "My perfect partner will have the following...", "Before I die I must...", "Thinks the boys need to experience before they grow up"

I was going to share them here. But I keep hesitating. There are actually parts that I want to keep private. Maybe not from this WHOLE audience. But certain members. For some, it is a sensitivity thing. I don't want to hurt them. Other things, are just for me. So I'm struggling against writing with a filter on (OH MY GOD HAVE I DEVELOPED A FILTER??) and still enjoying the free flow of unedited information from my brain to my fingertips.

I dunno. Pick up the lessons and enjoy the ride!!!